I finally fessed up to hubs that I was super angry at him for ignoring the Medicare and health insurance forms. Since I had let several weeks pass I was no longer inclined to call him strings of four letter words and could hold a grown up discussion with him about it. I told him how angry I was. I made sure he understood how angry I was. I told him that I don't have insurance for some time period because of him ignoring the paperwork. I explained that when I ask for something done it is because I can NOT do it. I'm not the type to make others do my own work. I have always taken care of things on my own without expecting help. For heaven's sake I was practically a single mom for 15 years since he was out working so much. I lived on my own for many years before we got married. I'm not one of those clingy dependent people. So when I ask for help I NEED help. I think he got it. He made one of those fake husband apologies which is an improvement over the not apologizing at all things he has done for 20+ years so improvement. Things I accomplished:
He knows he messed up big time.
He knows I need real help when I ask for it.
He sort of apologized. (a vast improvement)
He said if I needed medical attention then it would be paid for out of pocket if insurance didn't cover it.
We discussed his frustration with my illness and I acknowledged his burden.